“Healer Of Hearts” are you being authentic in your relationships

I am busting out of my own skin and it’s only the 8thday of the first month of the new -year when I started this blog...If life has started out this good for me then imagine what the rest of this year holds.

I want to share with you today the ‘most inspiring’ true story that I know has not only affected myself but guarantee to affect you too and it starts out with me telling you I thought I was never any good with personal relationships hence the failure of my own marriage after 11 years.

I know you can fail many times at something until you succeed there is a quote by Napoleon Hill that fits this story...(Before success comes in any man's life, he's sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That's exactly what the majority of men do.)

I did find myself how-ever in another relationship following the termination of my ‘marriage contract.’ I know this is going to put a smile on your face when I tell you my secret...and now my whole family will know too...

In August of 2010 I made the decision to end my 5 year relationship with a loving man whereby we both were not serving each other well, in other words we both knew it was failing in slow motion and luckily for me I had acquired all the right tools and information to “handle it” I really mean handle it mentally and emotionally, thanks to my personal growth I have developed and learnt, along with a community of like-minded people who surround me. I have not told anyone about my situation probably only 3 people I trust have known about it, you know who you are.

I even had my parents here with me in October 2010 who did not know. I truly could not see the point in letting them know and I wanted to spend my time with them and enjoy them being here to which I actually gained more growth and confidence to become independent on my own. Every-day they were here I would wake early to find myself in “tears of gratitude” for having them with me it was such a powerful feeling, they did not need to know a thing, everything was taken care of....so beautiful!

Now that you and my family know I now want to let you in on the “kicker” for 2011...if you thought this was it, wait for it...yes there’s more...

I recently met a man who I have known for around 3 months only, we would chat about leisurely things, I love fishing, camping and golf, he loves fishing and camping we really had and still do have an excellent connection with each other. One day he asked me if we could chat, of course we did and to my surprise he told me he wanted to be with me, wanted to leave his wife after (wait for it).......27 years of marriage.

It sent me into a mild state of shock (that’s not the ‘kicker’) the kicker is I ended up helping this man just by being brutally honest, upfront with a few words of wisdom that inspired him to stay and rekindle his 27 year marriage to his beautiful wife...

To me...that is ‘GOLD’ I feel so blessed, alive and best of all loved by many.

Not only have I squashed years of all the limiting beliefs about my own personal relationships and marriage, I have also helped in the process of healing another’s heart...I could write a book on it, nothing else matters...This is the ‘kicker’............ and I am in love with life.

"The Unlimited Mind”

Speaking to an elderly lady friend the other day I asked her how life was treating her as she has various illness’s and ailments an arm’s length long, she told me life was okay and didn’t say much else. You see I didn’t ask her how she was, but ‘how life was treating her’ so she didn’t go into all the little details of every little thing, excellent I thought now we can start chatting about other things.


I really wanted to just chat and brighten her day and mine, two people interacting that was all, she knows me enough now to know that I don’t dwell on things like the news or anything terrible that has happened in the world so I Iove that.

On further discussion I was telling her how my own mother pulled herself through two strokes in a row just last year that could have been fatal but because of her not giving up on ‘life’ she is now alive and well. She mused and said well I’m a widow and she has a husband for support so that is why she is better than I. At that moment it struck me how after nearly thirty years of being a widow she now felt that this was her reason for feeling poorly, because she is alone. I understand that by having a mate for life can increase or decrease your chances for a better life, (pardon the pun) depending on your perspective of that one lol...

I wondered why after so many years she chose to be alone or a widow if she was not happy. Wouldn’t you want to be happy and not sad?

Immediately it came to me, “is it too late to start living at 86”? according to my mother it’s never too late, she believes she has a second life now and as long as she can put one foot in-front of the other, have a laugh with her dog each day and eat seafood when she wants it then that’s living!

My elderly lady friend has been a widow for many years, she is a good woman who struggles to go to church each Sunday, has tightened her purse strings all her life and has the most amazing garden yet sees her life as over because she is alone. She even told me there are some things in life that are out of your control...to which I answered “that is because you can go through life and not take control”

When do you start living if you have given up years ago!

In such a contrast of the two perspectives I then thought to myself...I KNOW WHAT PERSPECTIVE I’D WANT TO HAVE AT HER AGE...and it’s not the latter.

Every-day life is a great experience for me with so much to “learn or unlearn” from our elders. For both these women although they have a different perspective from each other there is no ‘right or wrong’ way to think because we are all individuals, we all choose to believe what we want to believe.

Right or wrong, you choose...

"An Interview With My Parents On Marriage, Divorce & Longevity"

On the 28th of October 1947 my parents were married for the first time I say this because being a first and last is a rare thing for many people let alone having that sort of stamina and sustainability. I remember my mother telling me how they became a couple back in the day, with a keen sense of humour she informed me being a young girl working on her families dairy farm getting up for early starts at 4am to milk cows everyday of her life was not what she recalled as being the life she wanted. Her mother, my grand-mother was a strict woman and her father equally more was a proud horse-man who also delivered all of her brothers and sisters single handedly and from their family home.


Mum, one of 17 brothers and sisters decided she had had enough so asked a young boy around her age she knew from her local yet remote area if he would marry her so she could leave her family and milking cow’s every-day. He agreed so started the courting process and finally asking her parents for her hand in marriage.

This young man my Father a very hard worker who at the time worked for a timber felling company in the middle of no-where agreed to marry my mother who nervously asked her parents while sitting in a small row boat. As my Father recalled he was extremely scared of her parents as my mother fearlessly coaxed him along.

They were both married at a local post office in the town their first house was a mere tiny shack with four corrigated iron walls in the bush where my Father worked.

His fondest memories were my Mother’s keen ability as a gardener and having the best garden for miles around and coming home to the biggest, freshest vegetables everyday straight from their small garden.

Divorce was never an issue with my Parents, they had their fair share of relationships woes through-out their 63 year marriage though, what would life be without it.

There were many times of confrontation, separation and infidelity yet to understand someone else in your life really is to understand yourself first. This can take many years to confront your own past and fears of not being satisfied with someone or something in the relationship where you come to a point where you both look at each other and say “I LOVE YOU” after being together for a long time.

My Father gave me an important message many years ago he said there were three things to say to your wife and three little words that would melt their hearts. Those things were;

1. I’m Sorry

2. Please Forgive Me

3. I Love You

I couldn’t agree with him more. Life really is this simple if we can all take a leaf out of my Parents book of life...

My Father is a real romantic by the way and I only found that out at their 60th wedding anniversary whereby he wrote my Mother a heart-felt note to which he read out to everyone needless to say there was not a dry eye in the crowd. At the end of the day I approached my Father to chat to him and said I believed with all my heart they would reach to their 70th Wedding Anniversary, he said to me “You think so” I said YES without a doubt.

My Mum has amazing inner strength she was the strict yet caring mother who made sure our home was clean with a decent meal on the table. She has been active her whole life along with my Dad and had 2 strokes last year to which she amazingly recovered due to her inner strength of not giving up on life. At 84 years old she has not changed much, she told me the other day when she had the stroke which left her motionless and emotional, she hated being like that and was determined to get her life back, to which she has.

My parents have never forgotten their humble beginnings along with many years of life experience and a journey of two people through longevity, all relationship adversity, tears, heartache and love. They have both come out in their eyes as loving each other even more than ever before.

Through their own faith and sticking it out attitude I watch the gentle humour with fascination and love from their little jibes and gentle persuasion to the daily comedy of how two people can truly be the genuine article with all things aside.

The only thing I would say here is, It’s like watching two kids together who are the best of friends, who only care about right here, right now, and who totally love each other unconditionally for the rest of their lives.



My Name is Rose

I saw this story posted recently and wanted to share because I got a very positive response from the people I sent it to and needed to share it with everyone I know...ENJOY!


The first day of school our professor introduced him-self and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know.
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being ..

She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?'
I laughed and enthusiastically responded 'Of course you may!' and she gave me a giant squeeze.

'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked.

She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids...'

'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!' she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every -day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop.
I was always mesmerized listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a 20 campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.. I'll never forget what she taught us.
She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery.
I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.'
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, ' We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humour every day.

'You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die'.

'We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

'There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up'.
'If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old..
If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older! That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

'The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.'
She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose.'
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had
begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example
that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get.

'We make a Life by what we give'.

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A Fine Line Between YES or NO!

The Fine Line Between YES or NO!

I remembered a story that came to mind about a young girl who was given the keys to a golden opportunity to have wealth and enjoy an incredible life of journeying with others to far off distant lands, the only thing she had to do was leave everything behind her.

When the time came for her decision as tempting and tantalising as it all felt, she declined as she wanted nothing more than to stay with what she already knew, although not as exciting an offer had ever come her way before, with a curious yet cautious mind set her decision on playing it safe. Her keen sense of adventure and curiosity for new experiences gave her a sense of freedom because she was born into a community and family of honour and stealth beliefs.

Here I will leave the conclusion or definite purpose up to the reader of her intention and to take note.

Starting from a point of “what you already know “ to stay safe is an interesting thought, you can look at this differently depending on your perception of it. Creating new and expanded thoughts can bring about a sense of excitement and desirability for more learning.

What you already know, you already know...it is admirable to the person with a history of knowledge base and know how.

When you reach your decision, is it final and how did you come to that?

“To stay safe” is debateable and to step out of a safety zone is the decision to say YES or No!

"PLANTING THE SEED"

It’s interesting that the other day I spoke to a woman who told me she recently had a second hip replacement and found that she lost her belief in most things in her life and found it hard to think clearly about what she wanted. I asked her what it was she wanted to achieve?


She told me she wanted to be well and heal herself. I immediately thought if she had ever considered self healing through thought so I started right away visualizing her being well. Later on she said she has a tendency to procrastinate over things to which I replied that most people do and it becomes a habit that can be set up for life unless you want the change so much that you start making small steps towards the opposite direction.

Many of us know people that have gone through a process of elimination and when our lives get this out of control in our well-being and the last resource is to find a way that will help heal our thoughts, this woman was exceptional to the point that she did have belief in herself because she decided that by changing her thinking she might be able enough to speed up her healing process.

So implanting the seed of thought to wishing her well gave her just enough encouragement in her own mind to feel even a very small amount of strength left to process healing from that point forward.

Her healing process started within our conversation about thoughts and considering a better life through self healing. There is no end for a better life and health is only the beginning of improvement in all her areas. It only takes a single pointed thought to start the process going and the only consideration is to continue that same small focused thought which will lead her into the health she truely desires and giving up is never an option.

All wonderful things start with the tinyest amount of thought just like the seed of a tree that grows into the natural beauty, grace and wonder that it is.

On June 21st 2010 - "AWAKEN YOUR BUDDHA SEED" - His Holiness the Dalai Lama told a crowd of over 300 Japanese Buddhists that all human beings have the same potential to achieve Buddhahood if they realize the source of all sufferings is ignorance and delusion about one's true nature.  "Awareness of one's innate Buddha nature will give self-confidence and provide a key to happy life."