"An Interview With My Parents On Marriage, Divorce & Longevity"

On the 28th of October 1947 my parents were married for the first time I say this because being a first and last is a rare thing for many people let alone having that sort of stamina and sustainability. I remember my mother telling me how they became a couple back in the day, with a keen sense of humour she informed me being a young girl working on her families dairy farm getting up for early starts at 4am to milk cows everyday of her life was not what she recalled as being the life she wanted. Her mother, my grand-mother was a strict woman and her father equally more was a proud horse-man who also delivered all of her brothers and sisters single handedly and from their family home.


Mum, one of 17 brothers and sisters decided she had had enough so asked a young boy around her age she knew from her local yet remote area if he would marry her so she could leave her family and milking cow’s every-day. He agreed so started the courting process and finally asking her parents for her hand in marriage.

This young man my Father a very hard worker who at the time worked for a timber felling company in the middle of no-where agreed to marry my mother who nervously asked her parents while sitting in a small row boat. As my Father recalled he was extremely scared of her parents as my mother fearlessly coaxed him along.

They were both married at a local post office in the town their first house was a mere tiny shack with four corrigated iron walls in the bush where my Father worked.

His fondest memories were my Mother’s keen ability as a gardener and having the best garden for miles around and coming home to the biggest, freshest vegetables everyday straight from their small garden.

Divorce was never an issue with my Parents, they had their fair share of relationships woes through-out their 63 year marriage though, what would life be without it.

There were many times of confrontation, separation and infidelity yet to understand someone else in your life really is to understand yourself first. This can take many years to confront your own past and fears of not being satisfied with someone or something in the relationship where you come to a point where you both look at each other and say “I LOVE YOU” after being together for a long time.

My Father gave me an important message many years ago he said there were three things to say to your wife and three little words that would melt their hearts. Those things were;

1. I’m Sorry

2. Please Forgive Me

3. I Love You

I couldn’t agree with him more. Life really is this simple if we can all take a leaf out of my Parents book of life...

My Father is a real romantic by the way and I only found that out at their 60th wedding anniversary whereby he wrote my Mother a heart-felt note to which he read out to everyone needless to say there was not a dry eye in the crowd. At the end of the day I approached my Father to chat to him and said I believed with all my heart they would reach to their 70th Wedding Anniversary, he said to me “You think so” I said YES without a doubt.

My Mum has amazing inner strength she was the strict yet caring mother who made sure our home was clean with a decent meal on the table. She has been active her whole life along with my Dad and had 2 strokes last year to which she amazingly recovered due to her inner strength of not giving up on life. At 84 years old she has not changed much, she told me the other day when she had the stroke which left her motionless and emotional, she hated being like that and was determined to get her life back, to which she has.

My parents have never forgotten their humble beginnings along with many years of life experience and a journey of two people through longevity, all relationship adversity, tears, heartache and love. They have both come out in their eyes as loving each other even more than ever before.

Through their own faith and sticking it out attitude I watch the gentle humour with fascination and love from their little jibes and gentle persuasion to the daily comedy of how two people can truly be the genuine article with all things aside.

The only thing I would say here is, It’s like watching two kids together who are the best of friends, who only care about right here, right now, and who totally love each other unconditionally for the rest of their lives.



My Name is Rose

I saw this story posted recently and wanted to share because I got a very positive response from the people I sent it to and needed to share it with everyone I know...ENJOY!


The first day of school our professor introduced him-self and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know.
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being ..

She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?'
I laughed and enthusiastically responded 'Of course you may!' and she gave me a giant squeeze.

'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked.

She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids...'

'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!' she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every -day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop.
I was always mesmerized listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a 20 campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.. I'll never forget what she taught us.
She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery.
I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.'
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, ' We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humour every day.

'You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die'.

'We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

'There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up'.
'If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old..
If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older! That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

'The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.'
She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose.'
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had
begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example
that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get.

'We make a Life by what we give'.

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A Fine Line Between YES or NO!

The Fine Line Between YES or NO!

I remembered a story that came to mind about a young girl who was given the keys to a golden opportunity to have wealth and enjoy an incredible life of journeying with others to far off distant lands, the only thing she had to do was leave everything behind her.

When the time came for her decision as tempting and tantalising as it all felt, she declined as she wanted nothing more than to stay with what she already knew, although not as exciting an offer had ever come her way before, with a curious yet cautious mind set her decision on playing it safe. Her keen sense of adventure and curiosity for new experiences gave her a sense of freedom because she was born into a community and family of honour and stealth beliefs.

Here I will leave the conclusion or definite purpose up to the reader of her intention and to take note.

Starting from a point of “what you already know “ to stay safe is an interesting thought, you can look at this differently depending on your perception of it. Creating new and expanded thoughts can bring about a sense of excitement and desirability for more learning.

What you already know, you already know...it is admirable to the person with a history of knowledge base and know how.

When you reach your decision, is it final and how did you come to that?

“To stay safe” is debateable and to step out of a safety zone is the decision to say YES or No!

"PLANTING THE SEED"

It’s interesting that the other day I spoke to a woman who told me she recently had a second hip replacement and found that she lost her belief in most things in her life and found it hard to think clearly about what she wanted. I asked her what it was she wanted to achieve?


She told me she wanted to be well and heal herself. I immediately thought if she had ever considered self healing through thought so I started right away visualizing her being well. Later on she said she has a tendency to procrastinate over things to which I replied that most people do and it becomes a habit that can be set up for life unless you want the change so much that you start making small steps towards the opposite direction.

Many of us know people that have gone through a process of elimination and when our lives get this out of control in our well-being and the last resource is to find a way that will help heal our thoughts, this woman was exceptional to the point that she did have belief in herself because she decided that by changing her thinking she might be able enough to speed up her healing process.

So implanting the seed of thought to wishing her well gave her just enough encouragement in her own mind to feel even a very small amount of strength left to process healing from that point forward.

Her healing process started within our conversation about thoughts and considering a better life through self healing. There is no end for a better life and health is only the beginning of improvement in all her areas. It only takes a single pointed thought to start the process going and the only consideration is to continue that same small focused thought which will lead her into the health she truely desires and giving up is never an option.

All wonderful things start with the tinyest amount of thought just like the seed of a tree that grows into the natural beauty, grace and wonder that it is.

On June 21st 2010 - "AWAKEN YOUR BUDDHA SEED" - His Holiness the Dalai Lama told a crowd of over 300 Japanese Buddhists that all human beings have the same potential to achieve Buddhahood if they realize the source of all sufferings is ignorance and delusion about one's true nature.  "Awareness of one's innate Buddha nature will give self-confidence and provide a key to happy life." 

EMPOWERING POEMS

IN BLIND FAITH By Faenza Aitken

My Blind Faith I asked myself to which extent do I have?

Says universe to me to all extent you prosper don’t worry your very soul

To change and move ahead says they we know and believe in you

Erase the past and seek us fast your there yet did not know

We welcome all your queries and oppose your comment last

You are in light and speeding through quicker you last the task

To know you are exceeding the road we can now show for in the place there are no words no shadow’s or over-throw

So keep it light full of surprise and save your very soul from complicated drama-based in fear that will not grow

ODE TO MONEY By Faenza Aitken

Money is my friend money is all around

It comes in any currency US dollar note or pound

It keeps you in good company and yields you shares and stocks

For me it brings great pleasure with thoughts of riches and diamond rocks

I see it now everywhere and dream it right out loud

I see it in my slumber time all dripping golden sublime

Of course it sees me too I know its waiting shimmering and proud

So come my friends you modest lot I’ve plans for you ahead

Come forward take your place and stand

You are with me joyous to the end

“AU-GRATIS” By Faenza Aitken

My Gratitude abound no end of boundless dreams and memories that be

Given the strength of a perilous journey in the wake of dreams untold and penniless agreement foretold
You are now the creator of your ‘destiny’

I shall seek in the game within my given name a passage of right and secrecy

Hath I not been so bold in choice’s of old and caring for more that it’s given me

I see in the air a wisdom and promise to bear all fruits of the forest

No judgement is due not expected of you and share all the profits I give to you
All dreams that surpass they are not from the past they exist in an endless array
Of incredible passion and desire that happens when attachment is no longer the game

EMPOWERING POEMS

It is incredible how the universe works, I have just finished assisting my son with his project that he chose about our incredible snowy mountains here in Australia and to my surprise I realised I had not known certain interesting facts about the area and the people who were inspired by it.  At the end of his project which was a brochure he had to design and of course we were sure to include some very important information for people wanting to know about the area apart from the ski fields.

We happened upon a poem which was inspired through one of Australia's famous bush poets "Banjo Paterson" who wrote "The Man From Snowy River" a classic poem full of thrill, surprise and the hard-working man.  Of course we added a short description of this classic tale excluding the poem itself knowing that first it was quite a long poem and second the chosen words would be challenging to a year 4 child.  We also noted that the area he was from was indeed our town and area and where we lived was also connected to and named after places and words right out of the poem itself.

So through my own thoughts and feelings inspired me to write these poems which have come directly from my core of who I was being at the time.

"Blind Faith"      by Faenza Aitken

My Blind Faith I asked myself to which extent do I have

      Says universe to me to all extent you prosper.. don’t worry your very soul

To change and move ahead says they we know and believe in you

      Erase the past and seek us fast your there yet did not know

We welcome all your queries and oppose your comment last

      You are in light and speeding through quicker.. you last the task

To know you are exceeding the road we can now show

      For in the place there are no words, no shadows and over-throw

So keep it light full of surprise and save your very soul

      From complicated drama-based in fear that will not grow

"ODE TO MONEY"          by Faenza Aitken

Money is my friend money is all around

It comes in any currency.. US dollar note or pound

It keeps you in good company and yields you shares and stocks

For me it brings great pleasure with thoughts of riches and diamond

 rocks

I see it now everywhere and dream it right out loud

I see it in my slumber time all dripping golden sublime

Of course it sees me too I know its waiting shimmering and proud

So come my friends you modest lot I’ve plans for you ahead

Come forward take your place as you are with me

 joyous to the end