"CHILD LABELLING"

  

One of the most frequent, undiagnosed habits a parent, neighbour, friend or relative can do is to put children in categories labelling them which can really DAMAGE their perspective and general view of how they see themselves.

Most innocently, some don’t even know what they have done by auto-suggestion and on-going thoughts about the child. Taken for granted in the normal or usual way you might say yet more than likely everything that is thought of and suggested has been done through a limiting belief system of the person or people thinking it.

Belief system’s that have been set up by past conditioning and fear of the un-known. A crisis in the making for anyone who has either been subjected to labelling or has labelled by someone else, there is no difference between the two so the common denominator is that the outcome is fear, shame and embarrassment because of the obvious label put to the child and the same applies to the one labelling them.

The WIN, WIN situation is set up nicely and the only detail here is your perspective of that. Win because both the child and other person or people have convinced themselves and settled for the un-natural act of “Child Labelling” for life!

The pivotal point to remember and to apply is in-fact the opposite of any un-natural thought and thinking towards these adhesives. Stop the drama of un-wanted negative forces in your mind and continue ON-WARDS and UP-WARDS to challenge yourself about these beliefs and get your answers from within rather than relying on outside sources, clinical studies, negative media, friends or relatives.

As a parent, teacher, mentor, friend, neighbour, relative you deserve to seek the truth inside, nothing from outside influences will ever contain your truth.

First and foremost, a mother has the intuitive nature towards their own children and by all respects is usually the first to have insight.

I VALIDATE YOU!

I use to think about validation as a stamp that was put on something as a way of saying Yes you are good or passed or No meant no good or rejected but in this case I refer to validating other people and in particular yourself. To give you a visual of this would be to say as an example I came from a family of 12 and living in a large family has its definite benefits and pitfalls. My beautiful parents like many probably wished they had a hand-book about parenting yet they did their very best at the time. All of my child-hood I would visualize myself as someone on a production line with a stamp being validated for something, so as I grew into my early adult years you can guess what type of job I was in...and that is fair and accurate to say ‘what-ever you think about , you become’.

So why did my thinking cause this, well many things I probably heard someone say something to me early in life as a child which brings me to my own children and all children to be specific.

Fast-forward to my adult life and the realisation of thinking patterns from past conditioning, upbringing, friends, family and acquaintances. Understanding where you started from and where you are going from here is really the only thing that matters to you and ultimately ‘effects’ the people closest to you namely your children. We have all heard of the saying “The Child Within” referring to your innocence and purity from the beginning of your life. Rekindling memories of my children and young babies always brings up for me the purity and spiritual little beings of pure love that knows only this... and nothing else matters to them. They are saying ‘just love me, feed me and care for me I am yours’ who could resist such a beautiful and loving feeling and bond between parent and child.

Your validation starts from that time and continues all through-out their child-hood, young teens and adult-life. There is no stopping, turning back, toning down, re-direction, caution and fear-based awareness. Continued validation is ‘infinite’ and endless towards your child and towards all other children.

The parent becomes the student from parent-hood and your learning takes on a whole new meaning of self-awareness, responsibility and duty. If you are the parent and one who wishes only the best and continued support for your child and children for the future then doing all you can towards your own learning and developing yourself fully with the ‘right’ knowledge and good parenting to only “validate” your child without any other agenda then

I VALIDATE YOU!

You are a super-human and you’ve passed.